Our human want structure often blinds us to the nature of Love as a pure emotion. We want Love to be all actions, we want people to show us they love us and not tell us. In many relationships, Love is weighed down with expectations such as gifts, security, rewards and fidelity. We often equate Love to encompass all those things, forgetting that Love exists without those requirements. Most people fail to realise that fidelity itself is new and is more of a requirement of monogamy, unlike Love which has existed since the creation. The reward system that we all seem to have adopted goes against the principles that Love is built on, which in its truest form is freely given and expects nothing in return.
"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres."
1 Corinthians 13:4-7
The danger of today is that many people assume that when one is in love with another, that person loses the ability to hurt or wrong the other person. And this assumption is totally erroneous and leads people seeking Love and never really finding it. Love is not some magic portion that cures us all of our human imperfections. As a human being, it is by our very nature to be imperfect, making mistakes over and over again. Most times blinded by the benefits of fulfilling our hardwired desires rather seeing the errors or consequences of our actions. If one must love another, we must recognise these imperfections and Love truly without expectations. Until we are ready to do that, we would always be disappointed. Message @martinkem