Some of us have it real hard when approaching a girl we like, we suddenly get that strange dryness in our throat, that inability to make out a single word, or worse frightened like we have seen a ghost. But thanks heaven for the growing up part, finally overcoming our fears through tertiary education, a few self-help books (Double your dating and a few others) before finally realizing that the answer lies inside. Well it you still trying to figure it out, here are some steps that could help.

1. Be Confident
Without this, you might as well forget the next seven steps, 'cause you ain't getting laid. Forget whatever kind of Jedi mind trick it takes—a Raging Bull-style motivational speech in the bathroom mirror, or imagining her with a massive pimple on her nose—you should force your body to act confident.

2. But Don't Be Arrogant
If you lay it on too thick and make yourself the focus (or, worse, the hero) of every story you tell, you know what the girls would think? That you're insecure and desperate, and have something to prove (even if you be James Bond sef). The girls can spot a Napoleon complex within 60 seconds (unless she's still a learner). What girls like instead is self-deprecation— a guy who can laugh at himself. Make fun of yourself in the past tense. Everyone loves to bond about what dorks we were in high school. It proves that you can laugh at yourself while subtly conveying that you've become way cooler. But be careful not to overdo the self-deprecation, lest you fail the next step.

3. Don't Whine, Complain, or Bitch about everything
Nobody likes a complainer, it's seriously unsexy and tends to kill moods. If you can't get a bartender's attention, for example, don't sigh loudly and complain about the service—laugh it off and ask her to give it a shot instead. And your problem at work? Don't care! We're drinking, here!

4. Stop Being So Considerate
Nice guys hate to offend, so they add "just kidding" after every sarcastic comment. It's the equivalent of smiley emoticons. You don't have to be so gushing and eager to please. Poke fun at her girly drink, her music selections, her brick of a joke. You know, the way you made fun of the girls you really liked when you were in sixth grade.

5. Compliment Her
Flattery works, everybody wants to be flattered But make it about something besides her obvious appearance. She's heard a thousand guys tell her she has great skin, so it no longer even registers as a compliment, compliment her smile, tell her younlioe the way she laughs or her eyes or she will just assume you're trying to get in her pants. But if you are genuinely listening to her (You are, right? Hello?) and you manage to observe something about her inner person, it will get you far, because it's rare. You could be totally off base, but it doesn't matter: People are always fascinated by a near stranger's assessment of their character. It's kind of like reading a horoscope. If she makes you laugh, tell her she's funny. If she says something sweet, tell her she's kind. If she tells a great story, ask if you can steal it (worked for me). Telling her much you like her style, is a million times better than "You look hot in that.

6. Touch Her
After you've developed a rapport, find a lighthearted excuse for a little skin-to-skin contact keep all know how nice guys get frighten of doing this, but just do it—like a gentle shoulder punch when she makes you laugh, an elbow touch as you click on some shared delight, or Or drag her onto the dance floor to something like Terry G (something upbeat), But don't grope or gaze deeply into her eyes while putting your hand on her knee—she'll think you read some cheesy book on how to hook up (written by a man).

7. Wingmen are for beer ads. Wingwomen are for closing the deal.
Lets face it, a girl would find it easier to like you if she was introduced to you by another girl, Why?
When a woman sees a guy with cool female friends, she assumes
a) he's fun to be around;
b) he genuinely likes women, rather than just their body parts;
c) he's not desperate; and
d) he'll probably still respect her in the morning.
Moreover, wingwomen—especially cute ones —create an air of friendly competition. Your college/co-workers gal pals make great wingwomen, because you've known them long enough for the relationship to be obviously platonic. Or, if one of your guy friends has a cool girlfriend, invite them both out: Most women in relationships are chronic match-makers. Confide in her that you need her help—she'll be flattered. Then let her work her magic.

8. Make Her Laugh
This can never be overstated. No one wants to be bored (not even you,Mister nice guy) If she's cracking up, she's too busy having a good time to wonder about your motives (not the case if you insist on supersmooth, seriously seductive pickup lines). Sharing a laugh makes her feel you two are "connecting." In fact, it's a far better indicator that she'll go home with you than sharing a kiss. But please, no knock-knock jokes or movie quotes—you have to be witty and irreverent. Funny stories are always good. And a cloak of humor can disguise your intentions just enough: Ask her jokingly if she'd like to come up and see your etchings. After all, the truth is often spoken in jest.
NB: Do not use sarcasm, Most Nigerians never get it